Licensed psychotherapist · 10+ years · EMDR · Lifespan Integration · Certified HeartMath trainer · English, German, Hebrew · Online, worldwide
Licensed psychotherapist · 10+ years · EMDR · Lifespan Integration · Certified HeartMath trainer · English, German, Hebrew · Online, worldwide
Who I work with
Diagnosed late, or still wondering. Functioning well on the outside, and exhausted by what it costs to keep that up.
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You may have a diagnosis. You may have spent two years reading about it and still not asked anyone.
Either way, you've probably figured out that the attention part is the least of it.
It's the overwhelm that arrives out of proportion to what caused it. The shutdown when there are too many open threads. The way a mild criticism can flatten an entire day.
It's finishing a day of work that others found ordinary and having nothing left — and not being able to explain why, because from the outside you did fine.
It isn't a character problem, and it isn't an effort problem. If you've spent years being told to try harder, the exhausting part was never the ADHD — it was compensating for it, invisibly, without knowing that's what you were doing.
ADHD is usually described in terms of attention, which makes it sound like a thinking problem. Lived from the inside it's closer to a regulation problem — of arousal, energy, emotion and impulse.
Your system moves fast. It engages intensely with what matters and struggles to engage at all with what doesn't. It escalates quickly and settles slowly. Under load, it either floods or goes flat, and neither is something you chose.
This is why strategies aimed purely at organisation tend to disappoint. Systems, apps and planners assume a stable operator. When the underlying state is dysregulated, the system isn't the constraint — and failing at yet another well-designed system adds to a self-critical story you didn't need more evidence for.
What usually gets offered
All three can be genuinely useful. None of them addresses emotional regulation, accumulated self-criticism, or burnout from twenty years of compensating.
Working with the regulation directly is more useful than working around it.
Regulate → Integrate → Consolidate.
This is where most of the early gain is. Using HeartMath coherence training, we make your arousal state visible — on a screen, in real time — so you can learn to recognise where you are and shift it deliberately. For ADHD this tends to matter more than any organisational strategy, because it works on the thing underneath: how fast you escalate, and how long recovery takes. It's also concrete and measurable, which suits how most ADHD clients prefer to work.
Late-diagnosed ADHD usually arrives with a long accumulation — years of being told you were careless, lazy, too much, not living up to your potential. That accumulates into something that behaves like trauma, because functionally it is one: repeated experiences that taught you something about yourself and still fire in the present. EMDR and Lifespan Integration work directly on that material rather than arguing with it.
Then the practical and the personal: what your particular brain actually needs, what you stop apologising for, and how to build a life that fits how you work rather than how you were told you should.
Less shame attached to how your brain works frees up more energy than people expect.
Settling within the hour rather than losing the rest of the day to it.
Noticing the rise early enough to interrupt it, rather than arriving afterwards.
Criticism landing at the size of the actual event, not at the size of everything that came before it.
Being able to stop without the sense that resting is getting away with something.
Building around your patterns of energy and interest rather than fighting them.
Which is where a surprising amount of the daily exhaustion was actually going.
Not: becoming neurotypical. That isn't the goal and I wouldn't offer it.
I don't provide ADHD assessment or prescribe medication. If you want a formal diagnosis, that's a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist — and I'm happy to say what's worth asking for.
This also isn't the right approach if you're looking purely for productivity coaching, or if you'd rather not look at the emotional and relational side. That side is usually where the exhaustion actually lives.
You don't need
Therapy and medication address different things and often work best together. Medication typically helps with attention and impulse control. Therapy addresses emotional regulation, overwhelm, accumulated self-criticism, burnout from years of compensating, and the relational patterns that build up around all of it. Many people need both; some do well with one.
Because a diagnosis explains the past without processing it. Twenty or thirty years of being told you were careless, lazy or underperforming leaves a residue that a new explanation doesn't dissolve. That residue is workable, but it needs processing rather than reframing.
It can help with parts of it — particularly emotional regulation, arousal and recovering from overwhelm, which for many adults are more disabling than the attention symptoms. It is not a treatment for ADHD and not a substitute for assessment or medication where those are appropriate.
No. For a formal diagnosis you'd need a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist. I work therapeutically with people who already have a diagnosis, and with people who strongly suspect ADHD and want to work on the impact regardless — a diagnosis isn't a prerequisite for the work being useful.
Yes — and this question comes up often enough to be worth naming. Functioning well doesn't mean it costs you nothing; it usually means the cost is invisible, absorbed as effort, exhaustion or self-criticism. Compensating successfully for years is one of the most common routes to burnout.
Yes, including HeartMath training. I work with English-speaking clients across Europe and beyond.
Tell me what's actually hard — not what you think it should be. I'll tell you honestly whether this approach would help.
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