Licensed psychotherapist · 10+ years · EMDR · Lifespan Integration · Certified HeartMath trainer · English, German, Hebrew · Online, worldwide

Therapy for people who feel everything — and have been managing it alone.

You notice what other people miss, you need longer to recover than they seem to, and you've built a whole life around keeping that invisible. The sensitivity isn't the problem. What it costs you to run it is.

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Rotem Hess, MA, Psychotherapist

Rotem Hess

Licensed Psychotherapist

Attachment & Trauma
Stress & Resilience
ADHD
High Sensitivity

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Why Patterns Repeat

Many people are surprised to discover that repeating patterns in life are not a sign of weakness or lack of insight. Often, they are simply the result of earlier experiences that the mind and nervous system have not fully integrated yet. Even when life has changed, parts of us may still react as if we are in an earlier chapter of our story. 

This is why you may understand something intellectually - yet still feel the same emotional reactions appearing in relationships, stressful situations, or moments of uncertainty. 

Therapy can help your system gradually recognize that life has moved forward. As this happens, reactions that once felt automatic begin to soften, and you gain more space to respond from your present, adult self rather than from old patterns. 

The most meaningful journey isn't out there, and you don't have to walk it alone.

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You knew, as a child, exactly how the adults around you were doing.

You still do it — reading the room, tracking the tone, adjusting before anyone has to ask.

And afterwards you need time that other people don't seem to need. A difficult conversation stays in your body for hours. A full day leaves you unable to speak to anyone. Criticism delivered casually is still with you at 2am.

So you've arranged your life to keep it manageable. You leave early. You decline things. You keep your reactions at a size other people find reasonable, continuously, and nobody has ever seen you doing it.

Somewhere along the way you decided the sensitivity was the flaw.

It isn't. Sensitivity is a trait, not a fault — around one person in five has it. What exhausts you is not the trait itself but thirty years of managing it without ever being shown how.

The goal isn't to feel less. It's to stop paying full price for it.

Depth, empathy and perceptiveness aren't the parts to get rid of. The parts worth working on are the load, the recovery time, and everything a sensitive system absorbed more of along the way.

That's what I work on.

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How I work

Regulate → Integrate → Consolidate

Capacity first, so the deeper work has something steady to land on. For a sensitive system that order isn't a preference — it's what keeps the work from becoming overwhelming.

1

Regulate

We start with your nervous system, not your history. Using HeartMath coherence training and HRV feedback, you learn to recognise when you've shifted into activation or shutdown — and to shift back, deliberately, under real conditions. This is measurable, and it's practical before it's insightful.

2

Integrate

Once there's capacity to work from, we process the experiences still generating the reaction — with EMDR or Lifespan Integration. Neither requires describing distressing events in detail, which matters when the retelling is itself the overwhelming part.

3

Consolidate

Then we rebuild how you run yourself. Boundaries, recovery, what you say yes to, and how much of your energy goes into managing everyone else's state rather than your own.

Where people usually start

Door one

Highly sensitive and running on empty

You notice everything, recover slowly, and have organised your whole life around not being overwhelmed.

Door two

Burnout and not being able to switch off

The holiday didn't fix it. Rest doesn't restore you. You're still braced when there's nothing to brace for.

Door three

High-functioning complex trauma

From the outside your life works. Inside you've been on alert for as long as you can remember.

Door four

Adult ADHD

Diagnosed late, or still wondering. High-functioning on the outside, exhausted by the effort it takes.

Who you'd be working with

Licensed by the Austrian Ministry of Health since 2020. Over ten years working psychotherapeutically, in private practice and in clinical settings including psychiatric inpatient and outpatient care and rehabilitation.

Psychoanalytically trained: psychodynamic psychotherapy and group analysis (ÖAGG). Alongside EMDR, Lifespan Integration, HeartMath coherence training and neurofeedback.

I'm highly sensitive myself. It's part of why I work in this order, and why I take the overwhelm seriously rather than treating it as something to push through.

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Verified

  • Austrian Ministry of Health register
  • Psychology Today verified
  • HeartMath Certified Coach
  • Rated on Doctify

I work in English, with clients across Europe and beyond. Psychoanalytically trained in Vienna. Working online, worldwide.

Not sure whether this is the right fit?

That's what a first session is for. Fifty minutes. You say what's going on, we work out where the difficulty is actually sitting, and I tell you honestly whether I think I can help.

You leave with that map whether or not you continue.

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Sessions are 50 minutes, no commitment beyond it — see fees.

We all know people with whom it is best not to share anything that matters to us. If we have experienced something exciting, and if we tell it to those people, it will seem almost dull. If we have a secret, we will keep it safe from those people, safe inside us, untold. But, if you are lucky, you know one person with whom it is the other way around. If you tell that person something exciting, it becomes more exciting. A great story will expand, you will find yourself telling it in more detail, finding the richness of all the elements, more than when you only thought about it alone. Whatever matters to you, you save it until you can tell it to that person.

- Eugene Gendlin